"Why do humans feel such a deep loss for their pups? Because dogs are so much more than pets. As psychologist Julie Axelrod writes in a blog post the loss of a dog is so painful because people are losing a little life that we were responsible for as well as a source of unconditional love and companionship. There's a reason that most emotional support animals are dogs."
For anyone grieving the death of a pet, the pain can be overwhelming. Many dog owners view their canine companions as much more than an animal — to them, they’re members of the family. Losing your best friend is heartbreaking and can leave behind a profound sense of emptiness and loss.
Grieving the Loss of a Pet
Each person deals with grief differently, but that doesn’t make the death any less painful. Some people find it hard to express their feelings because not everyone around them understands the gravity of the loss, especially if they’ve never had a dog of their own.
Moira Anderson Allen, author of “Coping with Sorrow on the Loss of Your Pet,” adds, “If someone has never experienced this kind of relationship, they genuinely don’t know how important it is to those of us who have.”
Things you can do to help ease the pain:
Join a Pet Loss Support Group - search social media for online groups
In addition to seeking support, there are easy ways you can honor your beloved pet’s memory.
They tell you not to cry.
They tell you that it's just a dog, not a human being.
They tell you that the pain will be over.
They tell you that the animals don't know that they have to die.
They tell you that it's important not to let him suffer.
They tell you that you can have another one.
They tell you it's going to happen to you.
They tell you that there is more pain.
But they don't know how many times you've looked into your dog’s eyes.
They don't know how many times you and your dog have looked into darkness alone.
They don't know how many times your dog was the only one who was by your side.
They don't know how much fear you have
at night when you wake up with your grief.
They don't know how many times your dog slept near you.
They don't know how much you've changed since the dog has become a part of your life.
They don't know how many times you hugged him when he was sick.
They don't know how many times you've acted like you didn't see his hair getting whiter.
They don't know how many times you've talked to your dog, the only one who really hears.
They don't know that it was just your dog who knew you were in pain.
They don't know what it feels like to see your old dog trying to get up to say hello.
They don't know that if things went wrong, the only one who didn't go is your dog.
They don't know that your dog trusts you every moment of his life, even in the last.
They don't know how much your dog loved you and how it is enough for him to be happy, because you loved him.
They don't know that crying for a dog is one of the most noble, significant, true, purest and warmest things you can do.
They don't know when the last time you moved him with trouble... making sure it didn’t hurt him.
They don't know what it felt like to pet their face in the last moments of their life....
In Memory of all those who went over the rainbow bridge. You all have a place forever in our hearts
AKC.org - Grieving a Pet: How to Cope With the Loss of a Dog
By Alexandra Anastasio
Aug 06, 2019
Southern Living - Why Losing a Pet Hurts So Much
By Melissa Locker
Jeff Rear - Facebook post July 7 - poem author???
The article I am about to share with you happens extremely frequently in our field of rescue, you will also see this a lot in the medical profession & first responders. So please understand we do our best, but it does take it's toll. If you would join our team, not only would you be helping our fur-kids, but you will truly be helping a human too!
This is written by The American Institute of Stress:
“We have not been directly exposed to the trauma scene, but we hear the story told with such intensity, or we hear similar stories so often, or we have the gift and curse of extreme empathy and we suffer. We feel the feelings of our clients. We experience their fears. We dream their dreams. Eventually, we lose a certain spark of optimism, humor and hope. We tire. We aren’t sick, but we aren’t ourselves.”
– C. Figley, 1995
Also called “vicarious traumatization” or secondary traumatization (Figley, 1995). The emotional residue or strain of exposure to working with those suffering from the consequences of traumatic events. It differs from burn-out, but can co-exist. Compassion Fatigue can occur due to exposure on one case or can be due to a “cumulative” level of trauma.
Cumulative process marked by emotional exhaustion and withdrawal associated with increased workload and institutional stress, NOT trauma-related.
Primary Traumatic Stress
Primary stressors are those inherent in the extreme event, such as what was immediately experienced or witnessed, especially those things most contributing to a traumatic response.
Mother Teresa Understood Compassion Fatigue
She wrote in her plan to her superiors that it was MANDATORY for her nuns to take an entire year off from their duties every 4-5 years to allow them to heal from the effects of their care-giving work.
Is it Burnout or Compassion Fatigue?
The Stages of Burnout have been identified as:
Commonalitities of Burnout and Compassion Fatigue:
Clear difference: Compassion fatigue has a more rapid onset while burnout emerges over time. Compassion Fatigue has a faster recovery (less severe, if recognized and managed early).
Symptoms of Compassion Fatigue
– Affects many dimensions of your well-being
– Nervous system arousal (Sleep disturbance)
– Emotional intensity increases
– Cognitive ability decreases
– Behavior and judgment impaired
– Isolation and loss of morale
– Depression and PTSD (potentiate)
– Loss of self-worth and emotional modulation
– Identity, worldview, and spirituality impacted
– Beliefs and psychological needs-safety, trust, esteem, intimacy, and control
– Loss of hope and meaning=existential despair
– Anger toward perpetrators or causal events
“First, you should understand that it’s a process. It’s not a matter of one day, you’re living your life with a great deal of energy and enjoyment, and the next, you wake up exhausted and devoid of any energy – both physical and emotional. Compassion fatigue develops over time – taking weeks, sometimes years to surface. Basically, it’s a low level, chronic clouding of caring and concern for others in your life – whether you work in or outside the home. Over time, your ability to feel and care for others becomes eroded through overuse of your skills of compassion. You also might experience an emotional blunting – whereby you react to situations differently than one would normally expect.”
When Helping Hurts by F. Oshberg, MD
Chart: Compassion Fatigue Process
Tips for Managing Compassion Fatigue
Find someone to talk to.
Understand that the pain you feel is normal.
Exercise and eat properly.
Get enough sleep.
Take some time off.
Develop interests outside of medicine.
Identify what’s important to you.
Look for a new job, buy a new car, get a divorce or have an affair.
Fall into the habit of complaining with your colleagues.
Hire a lawyer.
Work harder and longer.
Neglect your own needs and interests.
— Source: Landstuhl Regional Medical Center
The ABC’s of PreventionWhat types of cases contribute to your stress level increasing your vulnerability to compassion fatigue?
Think of events or situation that causes one to experience an unusually strong reaction and often overpowers one’s usual coping mechanisms.
Are you aware of any of these issues or contributing factors in your workday? If so, you could be at risk of compassion fatigue.
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We hope that you would consider opening your hearts and homes to our fur-kids. Some of our fur-kids have never experienced the love of a human, they are the abused, abandoned and neglected. Imagine just one day "going for a ride" and next thing you know you are chasing the tail lights of your family as they drive away. Being left behind in a home or tied outside in the heat and rain having to try and chew through a chain to get free to find food! We've had a few like that..
This year, so far, our small group of fosters have managed to help us save over 250 dogs, not to shabby for such a handful of dedicated people.
Not going to lie and say that there won't be tears, but there is nothing that cheers you up faster than seeing how happy your foster becomes when they've hit that "jackpot" of their forever home.
Can you give us 2 weeks? A month or if you have the heart to help nurture a pup get some confidence? Help the dog with a quiet place to heal from heartworms or just from a broken heart?
We can only help as many as we have foster homes and you can see how badly this social issue is with the abandoned, neglected and due to lack of work from the pandemic so many owner surrenders.
If you can please fill out a foster form for us, our foster coordinator will get with you asap. Thank you!
The following is a very good article on arthritis in dogs, if you have a dog with arthritis you understand the need to know!
Arthritis in Dogs
Jump to: WHAT IS IT? SYMPTOMS RISK FACTORS TREATMENT OPTIONS CONCLUSIONDog Arthritis – What is It?I’m sure you’ve heard of arthritis in humans – the inflammation of joints that make for an uncomfortable experience in everyday living. Did you know dogs are just as susceptible to arthritis as well? In fact, one in five dogs will experience arthritis in their lifetime. Most often affecting senior dogs, this degenerative joint disease takes many forms; however, the most common type of arthritis in dogs is osteoarthritis. Osteoarthritis is arthritis affecting multiple joints – the pain and discomfort felt as a result of arthritis is disruptive to daily life. In most cases of osteoarthritis, the cause of pain is the constant and abnormal rubbing within the joints due to joint instability.
20% of Dogs will have Arthritis
In addition to osteoarthritis, other types of inflammatory joint disease in dogs can be caused by a number of factors, including: diabetes, bacterial or fungal infections, osteochondrosis, old injuries, increased activity levels in working dogs, obesity, and Cushing’s disease. The most common joint areas affected by arthritis in dogs are the hips, elbows, lower back, knees, and wrists.
In a healthy dog, the bone surfaces on the inside of a dog’s joints are covered with a thin layer of smooth cartilage which acts as a natural joint lubricant when the joints rub back and forth. If this layer of cartilage is damaged, the bones and joints rub together coarsely. This constant friction causes pain to the joints. In addition, the constant friction causes new bone growth to develop around the joints, which causes stiffness and limits joint movement. This additional bone growth is known as bone spurs.
What causes arthritis in dogs? Similar to humans, dogs experience arthritis due to natural aging, trauma, or situations when the joints do not develop properly (known as dysplasia). You might first notice your dog starting to limp here and there when they are moving around. Eventually, you will start to notice more progressive limping, stiffness, resting more often than usual, and a lack of energy and/or ability to do things they used to enjoy (e.g., running, jumping, going on walks, etc.).
What are the Symptoms of Arthritis in Dogs?
As mentioned above, the most classic symptoms of arthritis in dogs is limping and stiffness in the joints. A more complete list of potential symptoms includes:
If your dog is experiencing any of the above symptoms, it’s important that you take your dog to the veterinarian right away, as many illnesses and/or injuries can cause similar symptoms. Your veterinarian will do a thorough exam to rule out other causes and to diagnose the arthritis. A veterinarian will diagnose arthritis based on your dog’s age, your dog’s medical history, and a physical exam. Your veterinarian may also order X-rays of your dog’s joints to see how advanced the degeneration of the joints is.
Risk Factors of Arthritis in Dogs
While age is the most common risk factor for developing arthritis in dogs, other factors can make our furry friends more susceptible to this painful joint disease. These include:
If your dog has been diagnosed with arthritis, you might be wondering how long can your dog live with this disease, what are the complications, and is it treatable? If left untreated, dogs will be extremely uncomfortable with limited mobility. However, with proper treatment, most dogs will live comfortably with a normal life expectancy.
What are the Treatment Options for Arthritis in Dogs?
Because arthritis is worsened by obesity and lack of exercise, it is important that you keep your dog’s weight under control and their activity levels at a normal level. Non-medical treatment options in addition to drug therapy can be prescribed to treat arthritis in dogs. Pain medication will likely be prescribed to your dog to assist in the pain and discomfort felt due to the degeneration of the joints. In addition, anti-inflammatory pills will likely be prescribed, in addition to joint therapy treatments for a set period of time.
Non-medical treatment options for treating arthritis in dogs include:
These non-medical treatments may also be prescribed with drug treatments to further increase your dog’s comfort levels. There are three main families of drugs prescribed to treat arthritis in dogs: cartilage protectors, NSAIDS (anti-inflammatory drugs), and feed supplements.
Cartilage protectors reduce damage done to the cartilage in addition to promoting joint repair and reducing joint inflammation. Common types of cartilage protectors are hyaluronic acid, polysulphated glycosaminoglycans, and pentosan polysulphate
NSAIDs are anti-inflammatory drugs that manage the joint inflammation caused by arthritis. However, these types of drugs can cause some significant side effects in your dog. It is for this reason that NSAIDs are only prescribed on a short-term basis.
Feed supplements, most commonly called nutraceuticals are not drugs, rather dietary supplements. Nutraceuticals effective in treating arthritis in dogs typically contain chondroitin and glucosamine, which are naturally occurring in joint cartilage. Nutraceuticals like these are used to promote healthy joints (i.e., they can be used as preventative measures) in addition to decrease further development of joint damage when arthritis is present.
Can Arthritis be Cured?
Unfortunately, no. Once the cartilage in joints are damaged, they rarely undergo complete recovery. Does that mean there is no hope for your dog to live a life pain-free from arthritis? Absolutely not. Many dogs with arthritis live virtually pain-free lives with the proper treatment and management. If you suspect your dog may be suffering from arthritis, consult with your veterinarian immediately and explore all options to give your dog the best life possible.
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Checklist for New Adopters Congratulations on adopting a pet! You are embarking on a wonderful and rewarding relationship. Because adopting a new pet comes with a lot of change for both pet and pet parent, we’ve compiled a checklist to help make the transition as smooth as possible.
Questions for All Adopters:
Thank you doesn’t begin to express our gratitude.
Our rescue asked for help with secure storage for crates, dog beds, food, etc and Mary McKnight Thoma, Lori Devecsery and HOGBOX answered with a 40’ container and delivery of it!
This container was generously donated to I'm your Huckleberry Rescue by HOGBOX of Fayetteville, AR. It is beyond generous and so kind!
Please visit Hogbox for your container and dumpster needs.
We are being targeted in a campaign to harass us into giving a dog to an individual who claims it is his dog .
In late march we were contacted by a good Samaritan who had taken in a stray and could not locate its owner . Our volunteers posted the dog on lost and found sites and reached out to followers on Facebook. In accordance with the laws of the State of Missouri , we held the dog for 5 days and a Saturday before considering the dog for adoption.
This young male dog was malnourished , and required treatment for worms and ticks.He received vaccinations for distemper , hepatitis , parvovirus, kennel cough and rabies.He was also neutered and microchipped. He was not familiar with basic commands and showed fear and aggression towards men. We covered the cost of having the dog socialized and trained by a professional . After 6 weeks of care we had 3 qualified families under consideration when we were contacted by the person who saw a Petfinder advertisement for the dog and claimed they were the owner.
This person could not give us a date as to when they lost the dog , presented no proof of ownership, had no records of purchasing or adopting the dog , had no vet bills for the care of the dog , and had no rabies certificate . They stated the dog had been dumped or shot after being stolen . They had not filed any police report about the theft or possible shooting of the dog . They did not post about the dog to any of the many Facebook groups designed to help locate missing dogs..They did not present any social media posts sharing the news of their missing pet .They then demanded we hand over the dog to them and promised they would attack us legally and across the internet if we id not.
As legal guardians of the dog , I m Your Huckleberry Rescue could not in good conscience give a dog to individuals who had no record of owning the dog, vaccinating the dog , no record of ever having taken it to the vet , and who made no attempt to look for their dog when they thought it may have been dumped, and did not report to the police when they thought it may have been shot .
Now , as promised , the individuals who threatened to do so are smearing us across the internet and have recruited the help of many to assist them .THE IRONY is that had these individuals put as much effort into reporting , posting and looking for their dog as they have maligning the reputation of this rescue , they would have likely recovered the dog, or achieved some justice had it actually been shot.
We will not engage in a Facebook battle, but we did want to share our position with you . We assure you that we will always take action that protects the welfare of animals while meeting our obligations under the law. We thank you for your continued support as we work to uphold our standards in the face of this campaign of misinformation .
In your service ,
The Board of Directors
I m Your Huckleberry Rescue
The Ultimate Pet Nutrition Guide, This nine-article series contains insights from 35 pet nutrition professionals from around the world. It’s designed to answer common questions about animal nutrition and help pet parents make educated decisions when it comes to feeding their beloved companions.